My Body, Dressed My Way (Giveaway!)

Hi my internet loves. I know I’ve been MIA for the past couple of days (not that this should really come as a huge surprise to you all at this point, of course), so I think a proper “hello” is due! So, I received a lot of questions about the lace dress I wore to my extravagant birthday dinner that Sean treated me to last Thursday. And I held off on answering those questions because I actually had a very specific post in mind in which I would talk about it. I actually had planned on posting about it Tuesday, but in light of the tragic events in Boston, it just didn’t feel right doing so. I still don’t really feel “right” about posting, but I missed blogging, and I missed you guys, and shocking though it may be to hear, my Hunger Games birthday party wasn’t the only thing to happen over the past week.



What was I talking about? Oh, right, the dress.


To preface this, let me say that despite my 60-pound weight loss… and then 15-pound weight gain… and wherever exactly it is that I’ve landed now (I’m admittedly a little scared to weigh myself after my birthday dinner AND Melting Pot date with Aileen and Ai Rei AND birthday party–hahahaha, weight loss blog, schmeight loss blog) I have always had a fairly defined body type. Whether at 250 pounds or 186, size 20 or size 12, plus-sized or straight-sized or somewhere in the great unknown between, my general body shape has stayed pretty much the same: hourglass, with large ladies on top, wide hips, and a soft belly.

That’s me. And it’s taken a long (long, long, long, long) time to come to accept that. To accept the fact that no matter how much weight I lose or how thin I get, my body is probably never going to look like Rachel Bilson’s or Mischa Barton’s or, well, I’m not sure why I’m using actresses from The OC as the golden standard of ideal bodies, but you know what I mean. I’m not lean and lanky, I’m not slender and willowy, I’m curvy and tall and thick and–short of being seriously malnourished–will likely always be this way to one degree or another.

Now, let me be clear that I am not complaining about this fact. Not anymore, at least. Sure, I may not have a flat stomach (I cannot even tell you a single period in my life where my stomach has EVER been “flat”) or “thighs that don’t touch”, but even at my current weight, I can still appreciate my body for the things it does have. The things that some other women probably complain about not having. Boobs. A butt. Height. Long legs. A defined waistline, even if it’s got some extra padding around the front.

All that said, being comfortable(ish) with my body does not mean I wake up every morning with a huge smile on my face, thinking, “Oh! Glorious day! I feel beautiful beyond compare!” Accepting that my body is the way it is does not equate to having full, unbridled self-confidence. It does not automatically mean I feel beautiful and put together 100% of the time. It generally takes at least a modicum of effort on my part to feel confident and sexy in my own skin, and to achieve this, I need to ensure I am wearing clothes that A) fit, B) flatter, and C) I actually like. With an always-changing body that most definitely does not conform to Hollywood standards of beauty, this is not always an easily accomplishable feat.

To satisfy the A) criteria, I first have to accept that the size label on the inside of my clothes means NOTHING. Far more important than the actual number, is how the clothing fits. But, of course, that’s not always an easy pill to swallow, especially for those of us who have long equated clothing size (in addition to the scale) with our self-worth. But a size 12 is not a size 12 is NOT A SIZE 12. And because they’re all jerks, J. Crew and Old Navy and H&M and Loft and NY&Co and Forever21 all have very different ideas of what each size means.

Sized up to 14 for this dress. Also, BAM. See what I mean? There’s no denying them curves. Oy.

Sometimes this works in my favor, like when I’m in the dressing room and I realize I need a smaller size, and suddenly all I want to do is announce to ALL THE NAKED LADIES in the dressing room with me that I can wear a size M sweater. Buuuut more often than not, it means that I have suck up the fact that I might need to size up, but that doing so does not make me less of ANYTHING.

To satisfy the B) criteria, I need to embrace clothing that flatters the body type I talk about above. This means getting over the fact that there are certain fashion trends I cannot pull off (farewell, sack dresses), and getting INTO the ones I can (like anything that belts at the waist).


So while I absolutely love the blue Calvin Klein empire waist dress that I own (and wore to dinner with my two Ais on Friday in the pic above), I have to admit that it doesn’t really do much for me. It makes me look wider and thicker than I am, which, in turn, doesn’t make me feel great about myself when looking back over these pictures. Although, given the amount of melted cheese we consumed, I maintain that wearing something loose at the waist was probably a good call, purely from a practical standpoint.

Which brings us to point C): finding clothing that I actually LIKE, in addition to fitting and being flattering. I know, right? How much more can I possibly demand of the clothing industry?! Back when I was larger, I would settle for clothing that wasn’t particularly appealing all the time, simply because it fit. Did it matter that I didn’t particularly care for those colors? Did it matter that it pinched my underarm a little, or wasn’t the right length? Of course not! It fit over my head, it zipped up, it buttoned. That was the only thing that really mattered, because surely I didn’t deserve to actually feel fashionable or cute or sexy or beautiful. It didn’t matter that the clothes might not have been my style, or even that I HAD a style (which, if you were wondering, falls somewhere in the vintage/romantic/feminine/preppy aesthetic… I think). No, I just needed to find clothes that fit, that were more socially acceptable than the XXL hoodie and stretchy pants that I really wished I could have been wearing.

NOT ANYMORE. Enter, my newest closet acquisition:

Shabby Apple I’m Late! I’m Late! Navy Lace Dress

Shabby Apple approached me asking if I would be interested in hosting another giveaway for you guys. (I held one waaaay back when that ended up being quite popular, for good reason!) I told them that I absolutely was interested, as long as they were comfortable with me using the giveaway as a means to open up a discussion on what it means to try and dress for your body type. Thankfully, they were MORE than on board, and let me pick a dress from their site to illustrate my point. I ended up choosing the I’m Late! I’m Late! dress from their Mad Hatter Collection (best collection ever, amiright?) and am could not be more pleased with my choice.


Given that I’m not 100% happy with the weight I’m at right at the moment, this dress made me feel elegant and beautiful, while also making sure I didn’t feel self-conscious about the way my arms looked thanks to the lace sleeves. Cap sleeves tend to be a larger-armed girl’s worst nightmare, and it’s really difficult to find a vintage-style dress without them, so at least these had the extra covering too. The cut of the dress nips in at the waist while skimming over my hips, which is my ideal silhouette. I received SO many compliments on this dress! (It comes in purple, too, just saying.) In my opinion, this is very much a dress that exemplifies all three criteria: it fits, it flatters, and I don’t just like it, I LOVE IT. (It is just a smidge longer than is ideal for flattering my legs, but I think it’d probably be easy enough to hem up the lace on at the bottom.)

So now is your chance to find something that makes you feel equally as good! I’ve got a $50 Shabby Apple giftcard to give away to you guys, and all you have to do is…

1. Like Shabby Apple on Facebook.

2. Leave a comment back here telling me something you’ve learned (or are learning) to LOVE about your body!

That’s it! I know this is pretty much old hat by now, but I like giving you guys as many opportunities to win as possible, so–as always–extra entries are given for liking HISTG on Facebook, following me on Twitter, and tweeting/posting about this giveaway. Just makes sure you leave separate comments for each one, and in order to win you MUST like Shabby Apple’s Facebook Page. Unfortunately, this giveaway is open to US residents only.

ETA: I’ll be picking a random winner on Wednesday, April 24th! Sorry for forgetting to mention that little nugget of crucial info, ha!


  1. Name jillsays:

    i’ve learned to love my wide hips. I used to hate them and think they made me look fat, but now i think they make my waist look small 🙂

  2. Megsays:

    One thing I’m learning to love about my body is my calves. I have always had big, athletic looking calves, and I used to think they looked manly. Finding boots that fit is hard work, let me tell you! But now that I work out regularly, the rest of my body has some muscle tone to match my big calves, and I’ve decided my calves look strong, not manly. I love the way my calf muscles look when I’m wearing heels and a dress, and I never would haves said that a few years ago!

  3. Elizabethsays:

    I like Shabby Apple on Facebook! 🙂

  4. I like Shabby Apple on Facebook.

  5. I like this post. It really does make such a difference when you find clothing that is flattering and actually fits.

    I’m learning to love the fact that I’m very hourglass shaped and have wider hips.

  6. For me, learning to LOVE my body (in general) has been HUGE! Learning that food is FUEL and just how STRONG my body is has allowed me to treat it better every single day. I Love my body! 🙂

  7. I’m in the process of learning to love my quads. When I started lifting a year or so ago, I was under the impression that my legs would get smaller, yay! This impression was WRONG VERY WRONG. My legs today are arguably bigger than my legs pre-lifting, but they are strong. Like you, I have been forced to realize that some parts of me will never be small. But at least I can kick things really, really hard.

    • If it makes you feel any better, you look GREAT in that dress. Your legs are fierce!

      Also, I’m kinda impressed by your posture o.0; I’m such a sloucher lol..

  8. I liked Shabby Apple on Facebook, and I hope Shabby Apple knows that I’m searching for a dress to wear to my fiance’s welcome-home ceremony. From Afghanistan. Where he has been fighting for YOUR FREEDOM, SHABBY APPLE. THIS MESSAGE IS FOR YOU, TOO, AMERICAN RANDOM NUMBER GENERATOR THAT DECIDES THE WINNER.

  9. I Tweeted something borderline inappropriate. Is Sean intimidated by my sexual advances on his girlfriend yet?

  10. Laurensays:

    I LOVE shabby apple & that dress looks phenom on you. love when it’s not necessary to wear cardigans with dresses…

    anyway, I love that my waist is consistently slim and looks great belted.

  11. Laurensays:

    Just liked you on FB!

  12. Laurensays:

    Andddd lastly I follow you on Twitter!

  13. Elizabethsays:

    I have learned to love my shape (hourglass). When I was a teen, I wanted a straight skinny shape, but now I am embracing the curves!

  14. I like Honey, I Shrunk the Gretchen! on Facebook, but not as much as I like Honey, I Shrunk the Gretchen! in real life. Sorry, Zuckerberg.

  15. Elizabethsays:

    Now following you on Facebook 🙂

  16. Emilysays:

    I came to the realization that I will always be flat chested around my Freshman year in college, but I more recently learning how to use that fact when buying clothes that work with that body type.

    PS – LOVING the circle skirt from the Mad Hatter collection

  17. P.S. I shared this giveaway on Facebook too. I would share it on Pinterest, but looking back at my clothing pinboard, I’ve already pinned most of the Shabby Apple website. I should probably just live at Shabby Apple at this point.

  18. I have learned that the “ideal BMI” number and my perfect weight are NOT the same thing. Being healthy and happy is much more than a number.

  19. Elizabethsays:

    Following you on Twitter as well

  20. I like shabby apple on facebook!

  21. I like HISTG on Facebook!

  22. I follow you on twitter!

  23. Elizabethsays:

    Tweeted about your giveaway 🙂

  24. Kristinsays:

    I like Shabby Apple on facebook.

  25. Madelinesays:

    This sounds kind of silly, but I have freakishly defined legs, which I used to HATE and thought made my legs look very manly. Now I just see them for the strong runners legs that they are!

  26. Jennifersays:

    I liked Shabby Apple on Facebook.

    I am learning to love my big teeth. My orthodontist told me I had horse teeth when I was 10 (nice, right!?) and I’ve been self conscious ever since, but I’m finally starting to love them for what they are!

  27. Kristinsays:

    I like you on facebook 🙂

  28. Madelinesays:

    I follow you on twitter!

  29. Jennifersays:

    I follow you on Twitter.

  30. AvBFsays:

    I have learned from all you young hip bloggers that I follow, that though I may be old enough to be some of your’s mothers, I am still in great shape, despite my post-baby belly. And my baby is 13!

    I didn’t change my lifestyle until I was in my 40’s so I am impressed every day with the maturity you have about figuring out what works for you at your age.

    Thanks to you for being so open and honest about your journey. It helps us all.

  31. Kristinsays:

    I like my back and shoulders. I am not a tiny person but I am strong. My husband says he likes my neck and may be the only man I know who would prefer my hair short so he can see it.

  32. I like Shabby Apple (on facebook and in life!) and I think this post is very inspiring. It’s funny how everyone wants there body to look like something else. I have an athletic/straight build with a nice rear but very little going on up top and I always wanted that curvy, hourglass figure. I never realized people actually wanted the straight build… hah But I’m learning to love my body (I’m especially proud of my bum) even if it isn’t perfect – it’s the only one I’ve got!

  33. Brookesays:

    I have learned to love that my body can do things I didn’t think possible. Like, at one time I could barely run a block- now I regularly run 5 miles! Go body go!

  34. Marysays:

    I love that you pointed out that clothing size/number DOESN’T MATTER. it’s all about choosing the most flattering clothing that will make you feel great when you have it on! For me, that means accepting that I will always have a smaller bust and a straight waistline 🙂 Now I’m all inspired to go out there and shop for some new outfits that completment my actual body type instead of wishing I looked good in styles that were made for Victoria’s Secret models 😉

  35. Alysonsays:

    LOVE LOVE the dress and your hair too – is it just in a side pony & curled? Looks super cute.

    Aileen’s comments/tweet crack me up!

    Something I learned back in high school about my body is that it has no shape whatsoever, lol. Now that I’ve gotten older (and lazier), it has come around a bit. But I’ve found that if I can belt a dress, or find a dress that will give me some shape, I feel so much more confident than if I were to just wear a “flowy” type dress. It looks like Shabby Apple has some awesome stuff! 🙂

    • Gretchensays:

      It’s in a side bun that kind of ended up falling out, haha. But same basic principle! 😀

  36. Lara ZPsays:

    i liked shabby apple. i’m learning that my body is stronger than i give it credit for, which is pretty awesome.

  37. Nancysays:

    You know what, GOOD FOR YOU for embracing your body type! the dress is beautiful, so are you. And with that, we should really get lunch sometime soon.

  38. Lara ZPsays:

    i like you already, obv.

  39. Frances Msays:

    This was a lovely post. Thank you. I have learned to listen to what others tell me– that I *am* beautiful. I didn’t always listen and usually their voices were drowned out by the voices in my head, the horrible things I would tell myself about how I looked and how others must see me.
    With time, patience, and the love of my husband and those closest to me, I am learning to believe what they say about me, and to have those thoughts about myself.

    I liked Shabby Apple, and YES, that not everything they sell has cap sleeves.

  40. Lara ZPsays:

    i follow you already, duh.

  41. Ah, such cute clothes! The biggest thing I have learned about loving my body is it’s not about size, it’s all about fit.

    ps: I love their Alice dress!

  42. Jennifer Peppersays:

    I liked Shabby Apple on Facebook.

  43. Jennifer Peppersays:

    I like HISTG on Facebook 🙂

  44. ” Cap sleeves tend to be a larger-armed girl’s worst nightmare, and it’s really difficult to find a vintage-style dress without them,”


    I am learning to love my tummy. It’s shrinking slowly, but it will never ever be flat, but I like how soft it is. I even made my boyfriend touch it the other night because it felt like a baby’s butt.

    … I’m weird.

  45. Jennifer Peppersays:

    I follow you on twitter 🙂

  46. I already liked you on FB *nose in air* 🙂

  47. Lisa E.says:

    I already like (love) Shabby Apple on fb. 🙂

  48. Jennifer Peppersays:

    I’m still struggling to love parts of my body. I like my height, and my long legs… 5’10”!

  49. Lisa E.says:

    I took a picture the other day of me in just a bra and panties while standing in front of my full-length mirror. I wanted to look at the photo because sometimes seeing that is different than actually looking at the reflection in the mirror. As I was standing there, for the first time in a long time, I actually didn’t 100% hate what I was seeing. I have a long way to go and a lot of work to do, but I’m making progress. Since then, I’ve been wearing more body flattering clothes to work and carrying myself a little differently. I’m embracing my curves 🙂

  50. Lisa E.says:

    I already follow HISTG on Twitter 🙂

  51. Lisa E.says:

    I already like HISTG on Facebook. 🙂

  52. Lisa E.says:

    I tweeted about the giveaway 🙂

  53. I hate how the flat tummy and “thighs that don’t touch” are a thing. I used to be really really thin when I was young (I’m talking like 100 lbs for the first half of high school) and I NEVER had those. And I was really in shape! Those things really depend so much on your straight up body type, and not how much you weigh. It makes me really sad when I hear girls complain about not having those things. Cuz in reality- no one really cares. Other girls don’t care if you have those, boys (well, the ones who are worth it) certainly don’t care about those things. I think confidence is the most beautiful thing. I’m 50 lbs heavier than I was when I was younger, but I’m a million times more confident.

    Oye, sorry, didn’t mean to rant!

    Oh, and I liked the Shabby Apple fb page!

  54. Hell, Ms. beautiful Gretchen! Great post! I never get sick of reading about women’s personal reflection on their body issues. And I know it probably doesn’t mean too much coming from someone you don’t even know and that it’s so easy to leave a comment just saying this, but I think you’re gorgeous. You have such a beautiful figure. It’s so feminine. And it looks amazing in clothes, especially that dark blue dress!

    For a girl who has such thick, muscular thighs, I’m actually extremely boy-shaped. I have virtually no definition to signify I have any kind of hips. I’m straight as a board and the president and founder of the Itty Bitty Titty Committee. My body shape has bothered me for yeas because I don’t see it as feminine at all. I’m one of those chicks who it’s like, “Does she NEED to wear a bra?” I know that’s exaggerating, but a swimsuit model, I shall never be.

    And that’s totally fine. While I wouldn’t mind having longer legs and dainty ankles, I don’t. And no amount of running or weight training is going to change that. So it’s useless to keep chastising myself for something I can’t change. Since picking up running a few years ago, my thighs have become so DEFINED and lean and for everything I don’t like about my body shape, I love that! I look strong. I look capable.

    Great giveaway! Looking forward to hearing the winner announced!

  55. P.S. Sack dresses look good on no one.

  56. Reesesays:

    It’s so hard coming to terms with your body. I’ve only just now started going to the gym for me. To destress. To get healthy. To work on ME. And concentrate on ME.

    I’ve been a member of Weight Watchers for years… finally became lifetime in 2011, and am now training to become a leader so I can better know how to encourage other people through their weight loss journeys.

    For me? I need to learn to love those flaws. The cellulite on the back of my thighs. The fact that the back of my arms jiggle a little. That my stomach has a slight pooch. That there’s a little tucket of fat on the inside of my knees.

    It’s all beautiful. Because it’s ME. And no one else looks like this. Has this exact combination. That I am simply me and my body is my own.

    Hardest thing in the world to realize. And some days? I’m a grump about it. But I am beautiful. And would love to show it off in a Shabby Apple dress! ($50 goes a long way there!)

  57. I’m not in a great place with my body right now – not gonna lie. It’s been pretty cruel lately, gaining weight, not healing, etc. But I suppose I’m learning to love the fact that no matter how much weight I gain or lose, my body will reward me if I’m taking care of it with good food and exercise. It’s an asshole if I slip up for even a second…but it responds when I give it yoga, or a big bowl of salad.

  58. Reesesays:

    I follow you on twitter!

  59. Reesesays:

    And I like you on FB!

  60. Jen (@JenCanRead)says:

    I tweeeeeeeeted. Tweet tweet.

  61. Reesesays:

    And I like Shabby Apple too!

  62. Jen (@JenCanRead)says:

    I also “like” you. On Facebook.

  63. Lisasays:

    After years of fighting the fact that I have hips, I have fully embraced them and proudly rock some fashion belted high up on my waist, and closer-fit dresses. It’s great to see women celebrating their curves! (And I liked Shabby Apple on Facebook).

  64. Lisasays:

    And I like you on Facebook-keep the fun posts coming and happy belated birthday!

  65. CindyD.says:

    Hey Gretchen! Awesome giveaway!! You and I are very similarly shaped (my girls are a little less, ahem, ROCKIN than yours) and while I’m still about 25 pounds away from what I believe to be my ideal weight…I will always, ALWAYS have those curves and my husband will always, ALWAYS love them and what else could I want?? No stick-skinny figure is in my future and that’s okay by me 🙂

  66. CindyD.says:

    Liked ShabbyApple on Facebook

  67. CindyD.says:

    I follow you on Twitter!!

  68. Sarahsays:

    I liked Shabby Apple on facebook. I adore that dress on you by the way, and I’m so glad you decided to do a post about it.

    I have finally learned to appreciate by backside. I’ve always compared it to skinnier butts and held it up to way too much scrutiny, but after having a baby, and then losing the baby weight, I am finally appreciating it.

  69. CindyD.says:

    I done liked Gretchen on the Facebooks, y’all.

  70. Dellasays:

    I already follow on FB

  71. Kailisays:

    Wow; I love everything on the Shabby Apple website. I will definitely be shopping there when I start looking for bridesmaid dresses for my wedding next August. I am really trying to focus on loving my body by feeding it good and wholesome nutrients. Even though I haven’t always appreciated all that my body has to offer, I am making a commitment to finds things about it that I love.

  72. Amy Webbersays:

    I liked Shabby Apple on Fb!

  73. Amy Webbersays:

    Liked HISTG on fb! 🙂

  74. Amy Webbersays:

    followed you on twitter!

  75. I’ve liked Shabby Apple on Facebook, and I’m learning to like my own hour-glass shape. Curvy women ftw.

  76. I love this post! I have a very athletic build, no waist, tree trunks for legs (finally starting to get some curves because I run like woah) and then muscular arms that still have a little extra lovin on them. What I do appreciate is that my belly flat. I had abs and that makes me happy. I shared ShabbyApple with 2 of my best friends who rock the vintage look and they both are obsessed!! What a great site!

  77. I’ve liked your page on Facebook 🙂

  78. Amy W.says:

    I’m learning to accept my thighs. Like you, no matter what weight I’m at, my thighs will always touch.

  79. Laurasays:

    I have learned to embrace my height! At 5’10” I used to feel like an ogre but now I feel good rocking 3 or 4 inch heels! Plus, the added height is slimming! I’d never heard of Shabby Apple before but I’m excited to find them… kind of Anthro meets Modcloth. Nice.

  80. Wait, do I get another entry just for following you on Twitter? BECAUSE I DO THAT. THERE ARE AT LEAST FOUR SKIRTS I NEED. I’m taking this very seriously.

  81. Stefanie F.says:

    I’m learning to love/live with the fact that I have no discernible waistline. I’m straight down from boobs to butt with some bulges in between. I’ve found that using proportion correctly I can create the illusion of a waistline. Blousey shirts on top with skinny jeans on bottom or a tighter shirt on top with a flowey skirt on bottom flatter my body shape and make it easier to tell where my top half ends and my bottom half ends.

    I have the same issue with how differently every different brand sizes everything. I could be a Medium at one store and an XL at another. It makes no sense and drives me crazy and gets me down. I’ve tried to focus more on how a garment looks on me and not it’s size, but it sure is a challenge. Thanks for addressing this Gretchen!

  82. Stefanie F.says:

    Followed on twitter!

  83. Stefanie F.says:

    Liked on HISTG Facebook!

  84. Stefanie F.says:

    Liked Shabby Apple on Facebook!

  85. Kellysays:

    I LOVE this post!! I have learned to accept my wide hips, it’s my bone structure and there ain’t nothing I can do bout that :-). Plus I’ve learned that I’d much rather be curvaceous than a bean pole.

  86. Maggiesays:

    Let me just say that I would kill to have a curvy figure–that classic hourglass is stellar, especially when you show it off in a dress like that! I have the giant bazooms but absolutely no hips whatsoever. This makes finding dresses that fit especially tough because if they don’t hit my waist at the perfect level to flare out the fabric just drops straight down. I find that sheaths work pretty well, though, and I like that I can dress them up or down depending on the situation. The other struggle is button-down tops…always the buckling at the boobs, or else I buy one big enough in the bust and it’s too large everywhere else. I’m coming to love button-downs with the placket over the buttons. Clever designers will stick an extra button in there for girls like me (thank you, The Limited!) or it at least makes it easier to hide a safety pin…And, I like Shabby Apple on Facebook!

  87. Heidi Cheskosays:

    It took me YEARS to embrace my wide hips! I have a very small waist (which makes them look even bigger!) and loathed the hips until I finally realized having curves was a good thing, sexy even!

  88. Jennysays:

    I liked shabby apple on facebook!

  89. Jennysays:

    I liked HISTG on facebook!

  90. Jennysays:

    I tweeted about this giveaway!

  91. heidi cheskosays:

    I “liked” HISTG on Facebook! 🙂

  92. Jennysays:

    It’s hard to love every part of my body and I admit to being envious of some other girls’ assets without being grateful for mine!
    Recently I’ve been loving my muscular legs and moderately-flat abs that I have been working so hard on. I can definitely see the difference, and I’m proud of myself!

  93. Jenny Scheldbergsays:

    I’m slowly learning to love my waist again. The better I eat and more I work out I’m seeing it thin out and enjoy the curve to my hips.

  94. This sounds totally cliche, but I’m learning to love it for being strong and carrying me around all day and allowing me to do cool stuff like swim and hike and run. I’ve always thought, “Oh, if I was skinnier, I’d be happy and perfect with a flat belly and no cellulite!” To me, it’s been important for me to finally realize that EVERY woman has little “imperfections” (<–I don't even like calling them that, but I don't know what else to call them). Even people with banging bodies, like Hayden Pannetiere, have cellulite. We're all so busy trying to look skinny and hide any areas that we think are gross, but it just seems we'd be happier if we get out there in bikinis and just have a good time instead of judging each other!

  95. I follow you on twitter!

  96. Annnd, I like you on Facebook!

  97. Megansays:

    I liked the Shabby Apple Facebook page!

  98. Megansays:

    I liked your Facebook page too (quite some time ago!)

  99. Megansays:

    I’ll admit…I struggle every day with finding *something* to like about my body. I would never let someone pick on me the way I pick on myself. I do find it much easier to appreciate my body, despite its flaws, when I’m active. Lately, I’ve been too sick to be out running and cycling, but I’ve come to understand that the things I can’t stand about myself (my hips, my butt, my belly) are the things that my husband loves, and that by hating them, I’m hurting him. Whether “society” loves my body shouldn’t matter. The man I love loves me as I am, and his love is more than sufficient.

  100. Caitlynsays:

    I am learning to accept my big boobs. I don’t think I will ever love that I am so well-endowed, but I am learning how to dress, so that I find a nice medium between looking way too chesty (in tight clothes) and looks just frumpy (in loose clothes that just hang off my chest) – i.e. wrap dresses and wrap shirts are my friends and I love them.

  101. CrystalBsays:

    I had an eating disorder when I was younger, and I am constantly affected by that. But last week I was looking for a swimsuit (oh, the horrors) and after trying on about 20 different pieces, I finally found one that didn’t make me want to hide. I am still not completely comfortable in my own skin, but I realized that I can’t magically change to a size six. It will take time. And while I am waiting for that time, I need to do all I can to love my body the way it is. Because it gives me the ability to pick up my kid, or swim in the pool, or even just get out of bed. Thanks for opening up this discussion!

  102. Audreysays:

    I liked Shabby Apple on FB! I have found that no matter what weight I am, my legs always look fantastic and strong!

  103. Audreysays:

    I liked HISTG on FB!

  104. Athena Rsays:

    I already like SA on FB.

  105. Athena Rsays:

    I’m pregnant right now, so I’m learning to love this rounder me. It has been quite an adjustment, but I know it’s for the good of my baby boy.

  106. laurensays:

    I like my shoulders.

  107. robinsays:

    I like my body because it has allowed me to birth two wonderful children. I happen to be 50 years old and have spent much of my life hating this body, not anymore. It was a waste of time. This 50 year old not so perfect body has served me well, allowing me to work since I was 14 years old. It has served me well and I will honor it happily.

  108. Abbysays:

    After losing 47lbs in the last year (and still going!)I’ve learned that my body is capable of so much. I can RUN and when I’m tired I can push through. I’ve waited a long time to get here. I also have a lot of clothes in my closet that are now too big (yay) and wicked ugly because that’s all that fit at the time. This post hit close to home for sure.

  109. Kristensays:

    My large chest has always been a source of frustration when shopping, but I’ve learned to love it. Like you, I have an hourglass figure no matter how my weight changes and it’s awesome!

  110. Kristensays:

    Already like you on fb! Thanks for introducing me to shabby apple!

  111. I immediately loved that dress when I saw your photos nice learned that my body is strong. I’ve struggled with my weight my entire life, but I’m strong enough to not only finish one marathon, but two!

  112. Wendysays:

    You look awesome in that dress. I’m learning to love my hips. I will always have them no matter what size I am.

  113. I liked Shabby Apple on FB, and I WISH THAT DRESS CAME IN WHITE I would totally wear it to my rehearsal dinner. 🙂

  114. Hm… what am I trying to love about my body? It’s not exactly my BODY, but the past few years I’ve finally gotten control of my hair. I know this sounds strange, but as a girl with curly/wavy/PUFFY hair, it was sort of a nightmare in high school. Thank goodness I have a handle on it now.

  115. I like you on Facebooks 🙂

  116. Sabrinasays:

    I like Shabby Apple and quite possibly very soon in real life too! The mad hatter line is out of my normal style but seriously cute!

  117. Sabrinasays:

    I have started to love my calves – it’s still disappointing not to be able to zip up every pair of boots I try on, but I’ve learned it’s not the end of the world. 🙂

  118. I already like Shabbay Apple on FB but have never ordered anything from them… yet!

    I’m learning to love my curves, seriously. When I’m eating well & working out, I’m still curvy, but it feels less… fat. And I like that! Also? I have good hair. 🙂

    That dress looks awesome on you & is an AMAZING color.

  119. I like HISTG on Facebook.

  120. And I follow you on Twitter, too!

  121. That whole idea that sizes can vary a lot among different stores is something that I’ve recently gotten a handle on. It is more about how it fits me, not about what it is labeled.

  122. I like HISTG on Facebook!

  123. I follow you on Twitter!

  124. Paigesays:

    I’m learning to love my curves! I think you and I have identical body types, so it’s nice to see someone that looks so similar appreciate and accentuate some of the exact things that I don’t like about my body!

  125. Debrasays:

    Oddly enough it has taken me getting pregnant to really appreciate my body and what it can do. I know things will be different after the baby, but I am looking forward to dressing this new amazing body that created life.

  126. Kate McHughsays:

    I am learning to love my wide hips and larger girls. They give me the ultimate ‘womenly shape” and when I lose a little more weight, I can rock that Jessica Rabbit dress!!
    I like and love Shabby Apple on Facebook.

  127. Kate McHughsays:

    I also like and love your website.

  128. laurensays:

    Yayyy awesome giveaway! I know this sounds weird, but I’m starting to like (love? not quite) my hair. I’ve had unmanageable hair my entire life but I think at 27 years old I’m finally getting the hang of how to style and manage it. 🙂

  129. laurensays:

    Liked on FB!

  130. laurensays:

    Followed on Twitter!

  131. I’m learning love my body, and most importantly, that my body doesn’t define who I am!

  132. Rosannesays:

    I liked Shabby Apple on fb!

    The biggest thing I’ve come to terms with, very similar to yourself, is that I will always have that curvaceous hourglass shape. I’m totally okay with that!

    Right now my hourglass has a few more bulges than I’d like so I’m working on making healthy changes to my life to help get more into a shape I’m happy with.

  133. Madelinesays:

    I liked them on FB! And I’ve grown to love my thighs and butt because they’re what carry me to all the places I enjoy and take me to meet my friends and family 🙂

  134. Madelinesays:

    I also like HISTG on FB too!

  135. I liked Shabby Apple on FB.

  136. I’ve learned to like my runner thighs. They still do not get along with skinny jeans but they know how to run so I’ll love ’em for that instead!

  137. Liked, liked, liked! I’m not loving my body. I’ve gotten way too fat. Your site is inspirational and it’s time to move my butt! I can deal with being plus sized if my stomach were so goshdarn big. Soooo get that down and then I can embrace my curves I think!

    Thanks for the heads up about Shabby Apple! I had never heard of them Love it!

  138. Jennifersays:

    I also Like you on Facebook!

  139. Jennifersays:

    I also tweeted about the giveaway!

  140. Michellesays:

    I started CrossFit to try to lose body fat and get toned… well only the latter has happened. But I’m slowly realizing that it’t ok if I have a little extra belly fat because I can do way more pull-ups than most chicks.
    I liked Shabby Apple on fb!

  141. Moniquesays:

    Liked all around! I’m learning to love that my curves don’t define me- my actions and friendships do. Plus, my body allows me to live each day – gotta love that.

  142. Rachelsays:

    I liked Shabby Apple on Facebook!

  143. Rachelsays:

    I have come to appreciate my smaller chest. Although, now I’m pregnant, and they have gotten big. I am currently enjoying the cleavage but also like, wow, these things kinda get in the way. 🙂

  144. tarasays:

    I love that my body can carry me on all the half marathons and marathons I run…. now with all that has happened recently I am going to push my body to conquer a lifetime goal of mine – to run Boston!

  145. Annesays:

    I liked Shabby Apple on FB. I’m learned to appreciate and love my body as I am. I’ve always been a thick girl and have been slowly losing weight. I learned to appreciate my former 355lb body, enjoy 315lbs body and am continuing to reach a healthier weight (and lifestyle). I also learned that I really enjoy walking without completely losing my breath. Small victories are leading to big ones. 🙂

  146. Hannahsays:

    I liked Shabby Apple on facebook!

  147. Hannahsays:

    I am trying to learn to love my thighs 🙂

  148. Amy Bsays:

    i like on Fb and am learning to love my height! as a teenager i slumped horribly and am just now celebrating being tall!

  149. wendy r.says:

    I’m still trying to embrace my naturally curly hair and make it work for me instead of against!

  150. Learning to truly love my body has been hard and I have had a few more years than you to do it. When a large bust appeared on my petite frame at 12 I was mortified and despite my weight of 87 pounds (wouldn’t I love to see 115 now) my small pelvic bones never let that abdomen lay fat — I joke that I am from the clan of the little round people and have accepted that. But my body is strong and healthy. It takes me over the finish line of half marathons even when I don’t train enough. It can ride bikes for miles on end and climb up Old Rag. Now if only the fashion designers could embrace my size so I could find clothes to make me look as awesome as I feel.

  151. traceysays:

    I am learning to like my calves. All that running is paying off with sleek, tight calves, but large thighs 🙁
    Baby steps, right?
    I liked Shabby Apple on FB

  152. traceysays:


  153. traceysays:

    I follow you on FB too!

  154. I like Shabby Apple on Facebook!

  155. I stalk you on Twitter!

  156. I like How I Shrunk the Gretchen on Facebook!

  157. The thing I have learned to love about my body is my booty and boobs. A petite girl with a little bit of curves!

  158. ^^^That first one was supposed to say that I liked Shabby Apple on FB. Ooops!

    And I’m learning to love myself, although it’s taking time. I too have great curves and beautiful blue eyes!

  159. I like my strong core for all it enables me to do!

  160. I’m starting to love my behind! Going from flat and square to something a little more shapely has taken A LOT of work but it’s starting to pay off quite nicely!

  161. Jennifersays:

    That dress is stunning on you. I agree with every thing you said here. Curves are a wonderful thing!

  162. I am loving how much stronger/more resilient my body is! A year, or even a couple of months ago, I wouldn’t believe I am where I am now.

  163. Liked Shabby Apple on Facebook!
    I have started to appreciate my thighs—running and weights have brought out the muscle definition in them again. Them legs don’t get enough cred for all the work they do!

  164. Following HISTG on Twitter!

  165. Following HISTG on Facebook : )

  166. Nancysays:

    I like SA on FB and I LOVE the Arripidae dress! Thanks for the fabulous giveaway.

  167. Haleysays:

    I am learning to love my body for what it is. Embrace it on the days when I feel good about it, and even on the days I feel bad about it. Not being so hard on myself or focusing on the negatives and constantly thinking “I wish I looked like that”Creating a positive self-image and being comfortable in my own skin =)

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